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Updated 02/17/19
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Harmful Myths Dispelled
Harmful Myths
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Hurtful Misconceptions about Introverts:
"Reasons why Introverts and Extroverts get testy with each other sometimes" From The Introvert's Corner, Sophia Dembling, published August 2012 http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-introverts-corner/201208/hurtful-misconceptions-across-the-introvert-extrovert-divide Two examples from this article: -- "Introverts need 'help' in social situations". "Not necessarily.....Introverts manage social situations in our own way, in our own time. We might, for example, want to survey the scene to figure out where we fit in rather than plunging right in." "Given time and space to do it our way, introverts are perfectly capable in social situations." Why this hurts: "It can be patronizing, and might cause you to try and force introverts to behave in ways that make them uncomfortable." -- "Introverts are not leadership material". "Actually, research finds that introverts can be quite good at leading teams of extroverts because we don’t compete with the team." "Introverts have quiet confidence and can lead without bluster and bombast given the chance." Why this hurts: "Another misconception that can be a career killer." Ten Common Myths Dispelled: "Ten Myths about Introverts", Carl King http://www.carlkingdom.com/10-myths-about-introverts#.Uu07TPaHlAJ Three examples from this article: Myth #4 -- Introverts don't like people. "On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand." "If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you're in." Myth #5 -- Introverts don't like to go out in public. "Nonsense. Introverts just don't like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don't need to be there for long to 'get it'." "They're ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts." Myth #6 -- Introverts always want to be alone. "Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get increadily lonely if they don't have anyone to share their discoveries with." "They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time." 19 ways many introverts DO like to be alone: Bob McIntosh, CPRW https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/20140708104742-7069348-19-ways-introverts-like-to-be-alone "I am amused by the folks who hold negative stereotypes for introverts, but I harbor no hard feelings toward them. I agree we introverts enjoy our solitude, but we are not loners or recluses by any means. That said, I’d like to talk about times when we introverts are comfortable just hanging out with ourselves. These times may be everyday occurrences that are perfectly fine for introverts, and actually welcomed by them." Two examples from this article: Working alone.... "We're at our most creative and productive when we're left to work alone." " 'Creativity....', according to Susan Cain in her TED 2012 talk, The Power of Introverts, 'occurs in solitude, not around hordes of people in open work spaces. We don't need to constantly be around hordes of people to bounce ideas off; we'll ask for a second opinion'." Being alone at a party.... "The moment to sneak away to the terrace, an empty room, or the bar is golden to the introvert." "This gives us time to recharge our batteries, whereas the extraverts' batteries are essentially on a battery charger during the party." |
